How is your teen tracking?

In order for your child to become a happy and successful young teen, it is critical that they develop what I call a healthy ‘personal identity.’ Armed with this, they will develop a strong sense of self, good values and a feeling of belonging. This is sure to bring out the best in your child and enhance the caring, courageous, fun-loving, kind, romantic, strong and loyal qualities that are so important, eventually leading to inspiration to do something meaningful with their life. Teenagers will also develop the skills to successfully navigate their way through the world and avoid many of the most common pitfalls.



Identity (PI)


There are five key factors which contribute to a young person’s healthy Personal Identity, and we have developed a scale which allows us to measure them.

1. Healthy family relationships
2. Key foundation life skills
3. Good physical health
4. Recognition of and encouragement to pursue unique gifts and talents
5. Support through the transition from child to teenager

The survey below will allow you to assess the Personal Identity and wellbeing of your child. As you read through the five short sections, you should be able to easily identify which category he or she fits into for each of the five factors.

Once you’ve completed the survey, you’ll be given a total score and will receive more information as to which category your child fits into.

Please answer the five questions below as accurately and honestly as possible.

Teen Tracker Survey.

Good Physical Health

  1. Rarely, if ever, exercises.
  2. Is often sick.
  3. Eats lots of junk food.
  4. May be overweight or very skinny.
  5. Stays up really late, will stay in bed until lunchtime if allowed to, and always seems tired.
  1. Exercises sporadically.
  2. Gets sick a few times a year.
  3. Eats quite a bit of junk food.
  4. Could be healthier and may be slightly overweight.
  5. Likes to stay up late and sleep in when possible.
  1. Exercises regularly alone, with friends or through sport.
  2. Is healthy and rarely gets sick.
  3. Only eats junk food occasionally.
  4. Is not overweight.
  5. Sleeps well and has plenty of energy.

Healthy Family Relationships

  1. Enjoys spending time with mum and dad but also has their own life and friends.
  2. Talks freely about what is going on and feels comfortable asking for advice or help when needed.
  3. Feels trusted by his or her parents and that there is no need for them to know what they are doing at every moment.
  4. Knows they can come to them if there is a problem and talk about it.
  1. There is almost zero communication happening and/or a lot of arguments.
  2. Seems angry or shut down when they are around mum or dad, who have very little idea what is going on in their life.
  3. Doesn’t talk to parents or carers about what is going on and if there is a problem, they would be the last people to know.
  1. May feel tense when they are with mum or dad and communicates a lot less.
  2. Still has times when they enjoy doing things together, but it is becoming less common.
  3. Arguments happen but can usually be resolved.
  4. Parents are aware that they have a private life and are very concerned around what they are up to, but often don’t discuss it.
  5. May or may not talk to parents if they are in trouble or worried about something.

Support Through the Critical Transition Period from Child to Teen

  1. No acknowledgement that he or she is becoming a teen, and still acts like a child, especially with their parents.
  2. Struggles to look after themselves, even on a basic level.
  3. Doesn’t talk to or seek advice from parents, other adults or mentors.
  1. Slips between acting like a boy or girl and a young teen and has parents who sometimes still treat them like a child.
  2. Is not yet independent, and at times is responsible and at other times is not.
  3. Sometimes talks to parents or other adults, but not often.
  4. Can tend to waste time with technology playing computer games and social networking.
  1. Took part in an event that acknowledged they are now a young man or woman.
  2. Parents gave them greater privileges, and they can now take on responsibilities and look after themselves.
  3. Has older men or women, including a father or mother, and mentors who they talk to.
  4. Uses technology to keep in touch with friends and assist with their activities.

Key Life Skills

  1. Able to talk and communicate their feelings well.
  2. Gets on with people of all ages.
  3. Can be trusted that if they agree to do something, they will do it.
  4. If they make a mistake, they learn from it and are happy to seek advice from older people.
  5. Thinks about the impact on others when they do things.
  6. Has lots of creative ideas when there is a problem and enjoys working with other people.
  1. Communicates sometimes and at other times shuts down.
  2. Has friends, but mainly their own age and may struggle to make new ones.
  3. Sometimes does what they say and at other times will not.
  4. If they make a mistake, they may have another go but sometimes give up.
  5. Rarely asks for advice.
  6. At times seems very aware of those around them, and at other times can be quite selfish.
  7. Sometimes gets creative ideas but needs to be pushed and often prefers to do things alone.
  1. Very poor communicator and has very few friends.
  2. Can’t be trusted to do what they say.
  3. When a mistake is made, they give up, blame something or someone, and see themselves as useless and hopeless.
  4. Never asks for or listens to advice. Appears very selfish and to only think of themselves.
  5. Won’t look for creative solutions to problems and could definitely be described as a loner.

Recognition of and Encouragement to Pursue Unique Gifts & Talents

  1. Has things they are good at, but doesn’t often do them even though they enjoy them.
  2. Tends to jump from one thing to another often.
  3. Is quite influenced by what everyone else is doing.
  4. Can tend to waste time with technology playing computer games and social networking.
  1. Has hobbies.
  2. Is passionate and motivated about what they do.
  3. Knows what they are good at and practises hard to get better.
  4. Parents and school friends support them in doing what they love.
  5. Uses technology to keep in touch with friends and assist with their activities.
  1. Doesn’t know what they want to do.
  2. Feels like they are hopeless and not good at anything.
  3. Doesn’t really have any hobbies.
  4. Spends a significant amount of time watching TV or on the computer.